Find the best phrases and things to say to get your ex boyfriend back
quickly. This plan will help you from initiating contact after breakup to
wining him back.
You are the one of those who has loved and lost but hope to win him back
again. Don’t worry it’s quite possible to get him back, but what’s rare is to
stay that way permanently. Now, I know you came here looking for a shortcut way
for things you could just say to get him back. But you know it in your heart
that there is no shortcut to love and even the ways that can help require a lot
of work.
So, what would you do if I said that I have some words and phrases that
can help? Yes, I know I am contradicting my previous statement. Yes, it’s true
that there are some things that you can say which may help you to get your ex
boyfriend back, but it’s not as easy as it seems. You see, you can’t just say
you are sorry and then cheat on him again; you actually have to follow through.
And secondly you can’t
even say that you are sorry, just like that out of the blue; you actually have
to build it up so that she knows that you mean it and so that you wouldn’t
appear desperate saying it. So, here I am going to explain how these words and
phrases works including the things to say to get your ex boyfriend back. This
way you not only get him back, but will also be able to keep him permanently by
becoming one of those rare ones.
WHY DO YOU WANT YOUR EX BOYFRIEND BACK ?
Before you decide to go
through, you need to know with absolute certainty the reasons why you are doing
this. Some people are too scared of life on their own, for some dating is a
hassle, some just get jealous seeing him trying to move on and for others and I
am quoting here “I can’t live without him”.
Well let me tell you
this in advance then, you can live without him as you had a great life before
you met him and you certainly can live an awesome life after him. But the
question is that, do you want to have a happy life with him? If yes then that’s
the perfect reason to get him back. So, just make sure that you are doing this
for the right reasons and not because you are scared or jealous or anything
else.
WHY DID YOU GUYS BREAK UP ?
To better understand the
situation, we first need to figure out the cause the actual break up. And for
that you need to honestly answer these few questions.
–What exactly went wrong in this
relationship ?
–What were the situations like leading up to the break up ?
–And lastly, under what circumstances did the relationship ended ?
If you answer honestly
then you would know exactly where you stand and how much work needs to be done.
I mean if you guys just had a fight, you broke up, but still you are friends.
Then you just need to have a heart to heart conversation. In these situations a
good conversation with sincere apology will let him know that you care. This
can resolve the entire situation easily.
But in cases where he
left you for someone else, then I would say it’s late for a heart to heart now.
Now, in these cases being calm and trying to talk things out can work, but
chances are slim. He has already made up his mind, but it certainly won’t hurt
until you end up begging and groveling where you lose all the credibility.
And then there are cases
where you had an ugly breakup. Many things were said and done which is fairly
common in these types of situations. But after a while you realized that you
didn’t mean any of those things and you really love him and want your ex
boyfriend back. This is where this article can help you the most to get back
from the extreme and get your ex boyfriend back.
WHY GO THROUGH NO CONTACT ?
I am asked this question
a lot and more often than not no contact period is necessary. If you are not
familiar with “no contact rule” then here it is. No contact rule briefly means
not to contact your ex post break up for at least 4 to 6 weeks. Now you have
the same question like everyone else “Why do it?” So, here is the answer if you
try to contact him you appear desperate and simple because you are not ready
yet. You can do things in this no contact period. First you can use this time
to improve yourself and reflect on the mistakes you have made. Secondly, it
also gives him some space and a chance to miss you as well.
WHAT IF YOU MEET REGULARLY
Sometimes there are
situation where complete no contact is not possible. For example, in cases
where you two still share a house or have children together or even work
together. In these cases no contact rule can be turned to limited contact rule.
In limited contact you guys are allowed to talk, but not about personal matters
only work or kid related things. Also, you should try to make it as quick as
possible. So now that you understand no contact rule it’s time you implement
it. And try to use this time to improve yourself like getting some exercise
done and picking up some hobbies.
FROM NO CONTACT TO INITIAL CONTACT
Once no contact period
is finally over, you can’t just pick up a phone and call them. Remember I told
you before that I would guide you, so now is the time to follow the steps
below. Following them you will understand how using certain words, phrase and
backing them with proper action can help you get him back.
The best and the safest
way to initiate contact is texting. Now I know that some might think that this
is taking too long and might be tempted to call or meet in person, but they
would be wrong. You need to keep in mind that he needed some space from you.
Now you are just testing waters to see if he’s ready to talk yet and texting is
the least risky option.
NOW TEXT YOUR EX BOYFRIEND
Now for the hard part,
you should know that you only have three chances to strike up a conversation,
after that it would be like nagging him. No pressure, you just have to work
extra hard to find the best way to get your ex boyfriend to response. This is
where your knowledge of him comes in handy real nice. Since you guys dated, I
am sure you would know your ex likes and dislikes and that’s what we are going
to use. And another thing we are going to use is curiosity. This is one of the
best things to say to get your ex boyfriend back. Just like curiosity kills the
cat, same way curiosity will get your ex boyfriend to text you back.
For the curiosity part,
as this is going to be your first text to him after 4-6 weeks of no contact. It
would go something like this “You’re not going to believe what just happened to
me.” This kind of text always gets our curiosity rise and our response to it is
like “What? Tell me”. That’s what we are going for here. Just a simple text
back and we know that they are listening.
FROM INITIAL CONTACT TO CHATTING
Once you have
successfully initiated contact then the next step is to make these chats a
regular thing. Now you have to do the same thing that you did in the first step
but regularly. So, now we are going to use old memories to build up the
attraction and get to reply each time. Including the good memories in
conversations are nice things to say to wan back your ex boyfriend.
You can use old memories
to reminisce like when you went to see that movie. See reminiscing can help you
build a deeper connection with him. Once you have built enough rapport you
won’t have to worry about him replying because by this time this is something
that he looks forward to everyday. And just like that you have transition from
one chat to regular chatting with him.
THINGS TO SAY TO KEEP YOUR EX
INTERESTED
For the next part, you
have to keep them interested. For this we are going to target their hobbies,
something they are passionate about so they don’t stop texting back. Like if
your ex boyfriend is interested in baseball then your next text can be “I just
hit a home-run today, but” and then their next that would come “But what?” and
then you would “Got out on the next ball” See this will keep him interested to
hang around and chat with you. This is a prime example how a first contact is
supposed to go.
FROM CHATTING TO CALLING
Chatting is fine, but
now you need to get him to be more emotionally involved and this can be done
easily over the phone. Your voice will give you that extra edge to get him
back. So, now let’s see how we can go from chatting to talking daily.
For this we are going to
use story trick. You know when you want to tell someone that story, but it
won’t be the same over the phone so you go there in person, same rule but for
going from chatting to calling.
So, start like you do
daily with a bit humor like “Had a great day today”. His response would be like
“Why what happened” and then you start telling him the story of how everything
was going crap till you reach the turning point of the story and then you text
him “Can’t tell you over text, it’s too funny. Can we continue this over
phone?”. Since he is so into your story the response is naturally going to be
“Yes, of course” and just like that you have gone from chatting to calling. Now
you have to do this transition two or three times before you make calling your
default way of communication.
FROM CALLING TO FRIENDLY HANGOUTS
Since you have been
talking almost every day now, it won’t be long that you plan to meet. Take it
slow and just for the sake of initial meeting try planning group hangouts. For
this you can say things like “We had a nice week in the office and we are going
to Mickey’s to celebrate. Why don’t you join me? We could have a lot of fun.”
This way you don’t have to worry about it being awkward and there would be
plenty of people around if you guys feel uncomfortable meeting for the first
time. And secondly this also gives you a lot of different things to talk about
which will help you later to get your ex boyfriend back.
FROM FRIENDS TO DATING
Next in line is to go
from these friendly hangouts to dating. After hanging out once or twice you
would know if you and he are comfortable for the next step. So, now all that is
remaining is to go on an official date but before that let’s go on a bit semi
romantic type date like in the afternoon. This way he will get the message and
you two can have a pleasant conversation. And for this you have to use
something like “Want to get some coffee sometime” Traditional, right? But since
you two have been talking for a while this works best. No going on elaborate
scheme to getting him on a date. Once this happens it won’t be long that he
actually asks you out for that nightly romantic date.
FROM DATING TO RELATIONSHIP
Now that you two have
been dating again it’s time for it to be made official. But therein lays the
problem, some guys’ see it as a full time commitment and it is, but you have to
go about it in a way that he won’t be scared of it. Now if you go about it like
“So, where is this going?” then the guy is definitely going to be put off. You
just put him on the spot and he is going to panic and may even run. But instead
if you go something like “I am having such a good time with you these days, are
you?” and definitely his answer is going to be “Yes”. Now, you take it from
there like “Wish this could be permanent”.
By this here you mean your happiness and not the relationship, but you
don’t tell him that. So, if he is ready he would make it official. If he is not then
you can make it clear to him that you are talking about your happiness and not
asking for a commitment. But more often than not guys like to show off their
girl so it won’t be long before he does the same.
I told you that words
and phrases have a way of making things happen and it would for you as well, if
you are up for it.