Sure, wild, crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way
sex might keep your love life exciting, but if your goal is to really learn
what works for you, keeping it simple to start is key. "Trying to
accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your
focus on how you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the
sensations," explains sex educator Dorian Solot, co-author of I (Heart) Female Orgasm."When you want to
climax, the simplest positions are often also the Best Sex Positions, and with a few
modifications, you can make them even more orgasm inducing than they already
are." To help you get there, here are seven sex positions aimed at making
your orgasm the main event.
1. The Up and Over
Missionary position will never be
the same again. "While on your back, put a pillow under your butt, lift
your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders, as though
you're folding in half," says Solot. This move allows your partner better
ease of thrusting and deeper penetration — a perk for both of you. But consider
this a warm-up — you're getting yourself primed for a more intense orgasm. Once
you feel like you're getting into a groove, put your legs down and have him get
into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. "He's on top, but he lifts
his pelvic bone upward, aligning it with your clitoris," says sex
therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. "Then he rocks against the area until you
peak. The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings you to the brink and
increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes you over the
edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone," adds Brame.
2. The Down but Not Out
You've probably tried an
all-fours pose before, and while doggy style is inarguably hotter than hot, in
order to make it extra orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. "Lie on your
stomach, lifting your butt slightly so he can enter you," suggests Solot.
"Your partner can prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or
lie on top of you." Not only does this facedown configuration provide
increased friction as he moves in and out, but you can gently grind your
clitoral area against the bed as well.
3. The Lusty Leg Wrap
With all the twisting and bending
that goes on, sometimes sex can feel more like your cardio day at the gym than
something designed to get you off. That's why it's important to have at least
one relaxed orgasm-inducing position in your repertoire. Such as this:
"While you're on your back, he should lie on his side, turned toward
you," explains Solot. "Swing both legs over his hips and thighs,
making a bridge over them." Then, just let him gently thrust into you. If
it takes you a while to climax, this pose is ideal. "It's not very aerobic,
so the sex can go on for a long time without either of you tiring out,"
says Laura Berman, PhD, director of the Berman Center and author of The Passion Prescription. "When you want to climax, it's
easy to touch yourself or he can use his top hand to stimulate you."
4. On Top of the World
Woman-on-top
tends to be a go-to for achieving orgasm, and for good reason. "It allows
you to dictate the pace and depth of thrusting, but mainly, you have easy
access to your clitoris," says Berman. "You can touch [it], have him
touch it, or rub against his pubic bone to achieve orgasm." But you can up
the ante by literally pulling a 180. Twist around so you're pointed toward his
feet in reverse cowgirl position. "Instead of straddling him, put your
legs together, feet flat between his legs," suggests Brame. The benefits
of this are twofold: With your legs together, the fit is even tighter, making
the sensations more intense. Plus, there's increased internal stimulation,
which combined with your own clitoral strokes, makes for an explosive orgasm.
5. Table for Two
In some cases, a simple change of
scenery can aid in achieving orgasm. For this move, you'll need a kitchen table
— one that comes to your partner's waist. "Lie down on the table with your
butt near the edge," suggests Solot. "He enters you while standing
between your legs, holding on to your hips for leverage." You can rest
your feet on his shoulders or on the edge of the table. Because he's standing,
his hands are free to stroke your body," says Brame. "And he's at a
perpendicular angle, rather than right on top of you, making it easier for him
to touch your clitoris, unobstructed." To up your odds of orgasming,
clench and lift up your butt, which will increase the pelvic tension and blood
flow to the area.
6. The Sit and Straddle
Have your
partner sit, and straddle him so you're face-to-face. "You have a lot of
control over the speed, angle, and motion because you can use your arms and
legs to help you maneuver," says Berman. "Rather than just moving up
and down, which can be especially tiring, sway forward and back, rubbing your
clitoral area against him." In addition to the freedom of movement, there
are a few other benefits to this move. "If you lean back just a little
bit, you'll get greater internal stimulation and he'll be able to play with
your clitoris," Brame explains. Plus, your breasts will be perfectly
aligned with his mouth, adding a whole other layer to the sexual experience. Seriously, dont neglect the boobs, people.
7.
The Sweet Spoons
Emotional
attachment to your partner can absolutely play a role in orgasm. If that sounds
like you, there's no configuration that's more snuggly than the spoon. To assume
the position, simply lie on your side, your dude scooted up behind you. Rather
than move in and out, he should stay inside you, gently thrusting against the
front wall of your vagina. "Aside from fulfilling your cuddly needs, it
provides consistent stimulation, which is key for achieving orgasm from
intercourse," Berman points out. "Since he may not be able to
penetrate you as deeply though, guide his hand around your [clitoris]."
And just think: Once you've both climaxed, you'll be in perfect postcoital
cuddle position too.